Slapping

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The first time we get whacked in the face by our toddler, we are thrown off guard and are completely surprised. How could our sweet, innocent, adorable little mini human act so devilish. We take it personally, don’t we? Firstly, we’re like, “I’ve never taught them that? Why would they just to that?” Like we failed at parenting. Secondly, we are furious that our child would dare reach across the child – to – parent boundary and have the nerve to violate us.

The truth is, most parents are aware that children just don’t have the mental strength to express their emotions appropriately. Unfortunately, we are our children’s personal punching bag as they navigate through their emotions. Welcome to parenthood!

We know this, yet that doesn’t stop us from letting our ego take over when we feel the sting from that tiny hand. Grab a cup of coffee, take a seat, and let’s discuss Slapping Toddlers and the 5 Stages of Parent Guilt, on this edition of Morning Coffee Thoughts.

5 Stages of Parent Guilt When Slapped by Our Toddler

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Denial

When we are slapped by our minion, the first response is shock. Regardless if it’s the first time or the 100th time, we are thrown off guard when our child hauls off and open hands us across the face. We refuse to accept that this tiny creature could muster up the courage to cross the threshold of violence. We feel hurt and betrayed.

Anger

The hurt transforms into anger and we take their reaction personal. We allow our instincts to take over and our ego is bruised. “How dare they,” we proclaim. “I am the parent,” we tell ourselves. “This child has disrespected me.” Once the hurt subsides into anger, we may contemplate retaliation. Yes, I said it. We may, for just a second, think that we have to return the act, and put this defiant creature in their place.

Bargaining

Once the anger settles and we move toward reasonable thinking, we question our parenting. “Am I a bad parent?” we may ask ourselves. We wonder if we are raising a bratty, and disrespectful child. Are we doomed? You may comb through the last year or so, and try to pinpoint where you went wrong.

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Depression

Guilt grows and it eats away at us. We assume we are shitty parents and we begin to seek out advice from anyone and everybody who has an idea. Panic rolls through us as we worry that we created the next serial killer. We resort to parenting books and we try every tip. Each time an attempt fails, we fall deeper and deeper into our hole.

Acceptance

Finally, we realize that our child’s behavior is actually pretty normal. Realistically, they have only been on the planet for a short period of time; they are just expressing themselves through instinct, and less through logic. They will learn how to properly express themselves as they get older. The truth is, toddlers are just assholes, and you’re not a shitty parent.

Keep your head up! You’re slap happy toddler may not have the self control to know better just yet, but hopefully your understanding of the situation will help you model proper behavior. In the meant time, maybe you should get a helmet?

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Traveling With Babies and Toddlers

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If you’ve ever had an infant or toddler strapped in to the back seat while driving through multiple states, or had to bring your screaming child on to an airplane, then you have experienced a little piece of Hell. That’s right! Little humans were not equipped to handle travel very well and they make that pretty clear. If you are among those who were labeled “that asshole” on public transportation, or if you’ve had to endure the torture of a crying child while driving to grandma’s house, then you have acquired another badge in the wonderful organization of parenthood.

Traveling with kids can be stressful and exhausting. If you are traveling with a sensitive kid, however, who hates any type of restraint, hates the unfamiliarity of strange places, and refuses to pee in public facilities, then you my friend have endured the dimension of pure nightmares. Vacations are no longer fun and you would rather stay home. You are not alone in this one. Grab a cup of coffee, take a seat, and let’s discuss Traveling with Babies and Toddlers on this edition of Morning Coffee Thoughts.

Traveling with Babies and Toddlers

 

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It’s Hard

If your baby, toddler, or young child hates the car seat, you have to mentally prepare yourself for endless hours of screaming and crying. Not to mention be “on alert” status you have to put yourself in when your child starts sling shooting toys, sippy cups, bottles, and other things across the seat. I still can’t figure out how I get hit in the back of the head. How is that possible?

If your child is a routine junkie, the mix-up of schedules and daily activities is the perfect antidote for hourly meltdowns. I hope you’re centered, mama, because your patience level is going to drain rather quickly. If you are not religious, you might want to look into praying. Even if it’s to the Wine God’s. Sir Cab, please get me thorough the next 3 hours until I can sneak away to the bar.

If your child is a home-body and hates being away from their own bed and personal belongings, be prepared to never sleep. Like, worse then usual. Just the weird smell of the hotel will be enough to induce nightmares so scary that you’ll start to wonder if your child will ever sleep again. “Why do families even go on vacations,” you’ll ask yourself over and over. You’ll tell yourself how terrible of an idea this was and that you’re never doing it again, but then you do.

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It’s Torture

When packing for vacation, you literally have to pack the entire house. If you are one of those people who over pack, this is going to suck so hard for you. There will be a lot of suitcases, a lot of running back and forth, and remembering to pack everything will never happen. Even if you make a list, you will forget something. This will ruin your entire trip. You’ll either have to spend a ridiculous amount of money purchasing items you forgot, or you’re going to have no other chose but turn around to go get it. So much for being on time.

Your kids will eat more snacks than real food, and when you get home from vacation they will assume this is a new thing. They will try to bribe you for snacks instead of full meals. Stay strong and you tell those stingy little goldfish eaters to back off. They’re just going to have to wait until the next vacation.

So many stops! If you have multiple kids, good luck. No one ever has to go to the bathroom at the same time. Someone is always hungry. Someone loses a purple crayon and we need to pull over to find it. Someone chucked their teddy across the seat and now they need it back. Someone needs caffeine (you). Someone is touching someone. Someone has to go to the bathroom, again.

The amount of crying that takes place always appears to double. There is so much crying. Crying in the car, crying on the plane, the train, in the Uber, in the hotel, at the amusement park. So much crying. How does one person emanate so much liquid from their eye’s. I don’t understand.

For the routiners, we have to organize each day around naps or suffer the consequences of a cranky child. Naps are pretty important in this scenario. If your little one is one of those kids that do not fall asleep where ever and when ever, then one parent has to leave the fun and head back to the hotel so your screaming demon can catch some z’s.

On second thought, let’s just stay home, hunny.

 

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Naps Are Important

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If I could do one thing during the day, it would be to take a nice, long, quiet nap. A nap with no interruptions, and no concerns about things not getting done or a toddler pulling at my fingers because I’ve got important duties to take care of. Oh, but would I love that nap so very much. A quiet space with mindful music in the background. A waterfall off in the distance. A cool breeze slithering through the windows as I dream. This is adulthood: Daydreaming about naps.

It’s funny how kids take naps for granted. Like, there is so much to explore and play. There is no time for naps. Naps are insignificant to the amount of excitement going on around them. Oh, to have that sense of ambition each day that we jump out of bed, proclaiming, “It’s today! It’s time to play!” Oh to be a child.

Dear Kids, do you not understand that naps are so very important. Yes, naps are important for our kids, but did you know they are important for you too? Grab a cup of coffee, take a seat, and let’s discuss why Naps Are Important in this edition of Morning Coffee Thoughts.

Naps Are Important

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For Kids

Naps are important for kids health. It is the right amount of down time during the day to rejuvenate them and rebuild their energy. It gives the brain time to take a break, and it allows the body to heal itself.

Naps also prevent crankiness. I am pretty strict about nap time with my kid because I know it will keep her in a good mood; therefor, I will be in a good mood. It limits the amount of melt downs. If nap time doesn’t fit into a busy day I make sure my kid has an opportunity to rest, whether it’s in the car or in her stroller.

Down time is important for their growth and development. Important things happen in your child’s brain when they are napping. This means naps help kid brains retain information and improve memory.

Yes, it’s true, our children may not understand these benefits and it doesn’t make nap time any easier. Knowing why naps are important for us grownups though, may help us stick to our guns when it comes to maintaining a nap time routine.

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Important For Parents

Kids are relentless fire balls of energy, loaded with car batteries that never seem to die. And when they start to slow down, they re-charge by sucking the ever-living life out of us until we’re coffee guzzling zombies. This is my hypothesis when it comes to their ridiculous levels of energy.

This is why we desperately need our children to nap, so that we gain a few minutes to take a deep inhale and sit our asses down. We’ have been chasing, negotiating, wrestling, and lifting for multiple straight hours. Yes, you are exhausted and now you need a break: nap time!

We put off important tasks all day because we have to to give our undivided attention to a fire rocket. Now that our adorable spaceship is nestled cutely in their sleep, we get to wash the dishes, clean up that pile of throw up that’s been sitting all day, and grab a snack.

Naps also allow you to take in a calm moment of serenity, and watch your little blessing sleep. You watch them, wondering how magical it was to create such a beautiful little creature, and you suddenly remember why you became a parent in the first place. Not something you usually get the chance to do when your racing around behind them.

Naps help our kids grow into healthy beings, but they also give us our sanity back, right at the moment when we feel like we are hanging on to our last little bit. So get those suckers off to dream land and find your moment to breath. Happy Napping!

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